When you have been in a long-term relationship and you are ready to take the next step, moving in together starts to make the most sense. Here are ten things I learned after moving in with my boyfriend.
Cooking for two is much more enjoyable and nutritious. I am not much of a cook and my diet lacked a lot of nutrition when I lived by myself. Thank goodness, I found myself a gourmet chef who loves spoiling me with new vegan recipes every chance he gets. Now, I am enjoying cooking a lot more because we do it together.
You get to spend time with your best friend every day. My boyfriend and I spent a lot of time together even before we moved in together. Sharing an address didn’t really change a whole lot about that. But, I absolutely love the extra time we have added to our relationship whether we spend it by cuddling, watching TV, or venting about that coworker drama. I get to spend most of my time with my favorite human every day and that’s one of the best things about living together.
They are going to find out that you poop. Before moving in together, my boyfriend and I always talked about eating healthy to promote gut health. But, poop has been the least discussed topic throughout our relationship. Now that we live together, poop and fart has come up a bit more frequently. He now understands that if I am in the bathroom for a while, there is only one reason why.
You can no longer hide your idiosyncrasies. By the time you and your partner are ready to move in together, the stage of your relationship where you try to make everything about you seem perfect, should be close to over. But, even so, you might find out that your partner likes to leave his t-shirts on the floor after every shower, or leaves days old water glass near his work desk. The same goes for you -- your flaws are on full display.
Taking a breather is not an option when you are not on the same energy level. On days when you and your partner argue, the luxury of taking a step back to cool off is no longer an option. The best you can do is distance yourself by moving to a different room until things are back to normal again.
Don’t listen to people who pressure you to get married, KAREN. As if moving in together isn’t serious enough, some people will start asking you when you and your partner will tie the knot. These discussions are for you two and only you two to have when you are ready. Go at your own pace and if you want to hear the wedding bells soon, that’s okay, too. You do you, girlfriend.
You both have different definitions of what clean really means. I have learned that I am more of a tidy person and my boyfriend is a clean person. I care more about keeping everything in place and organized, while he focuses more on doing the dishes, and deep-cleaning the shower before he takes a bath.
You are going to discover pet peeves. If you one day learn that you don’t appreciate how your significant other doesn’t put things back where they found them, don’t let that frustration overflow before you speak up. Speak to them kindly about how this bothers you so you can find a system that works for the both of you.
You will start waking up around the same time. You might have different work schedules, or one of you likes to stay up late at night. That will change soon after you move in together, because your schedules will collide. You will start waking up when your S.O. wakes up, nap when they want to nap, and sleep when they want to sleep. It is really contagious.
You no longer have your own space. I had my own room or apartment space pretty much my entire life. The concept of sharing a space (even though attractive) was very foreign to me. Once I moved in with my boyfriend, I had to get accustomed to the idea of calling the apartment ours and not just mine. Suddenly though, and as cheesy as it sounds, this small little shared space of ours became home.
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